Divorce Counseling
Are You Looking For Support As You Navigate Or Consider A Divorce?
Divorce is hard at any stage. If you’re in the decision-making process, you may be wondering, “Am I making the right choice? Is everything going to be okay?” If you are in the middle of a divorce, you may be overwhelmed or frustrated by the often unfair and impersonal nature of the legal system.
Even if you’ve finalized your divorce, there’s still the task of adjusting to the change and rebuilding your life. And if children are involved, there is the added stress of helping them adjust, as well as the stress of having to co-parent with someone who is otherwise no longer a part of your life.
No matter where you are in the divorce process, you deserve to feel safe, confident in your decisions, and capable of moving forward. My job is to help you move through this journey with greater ease, awareness, and support so that you can heal, rebuild, and establish a new sense of normalcy in your life.
Happily Ever After Doesn’t Mirror Everyone’s Story
Our culture romanticizes the idea of marriage, but the truth is that living with another person while pursuing goals, navigating transitions, and evolving as an individual is not easy. Throw kids into the mix and that’s another story entirely.
There is the fantasy of love and marriage, and then, there is the reality. Real marriages end for all sorts of reasons, and that’s okay. It's hard, but it's okay, and together we can help you find happiness on the other side.
How Divorce Counseling Can Help
Going through a divorce or even considering a divorce is exhausting, and you don’t have to do it alone. In therapy you will have an impartial ally who can support and empower you. We will work together to re-imagine your future and chart a path forward toward healing and growth. Whether you are struggling with co-parenting, feelings of sadness, loss, or anger, financial anxiety, dating fears, or the stress of the legal process, divorce counseling will help you rebuild your life, and feel whole again.
In our work together, I’ll draw upon a variety of perspectives that focus on how this not-so-uncommon experience of divorce is uniquely experienced by you. Psychodynamic approaches can help us understand how relationships in your childhood family and early life impact your relationship dynamics and self-perception in the present. The Internal Family Systems model and Ego State techniques can help us focus on healing any parts of you that may have been wounded in the past, and are still trying to protect you in ways that might actually interfere with your ability to live fully in the present. If trauma is a contributing factor, we can use EMDR, a highly effective treatment for trauma that operates on a neurological level, stimulating your brain’s natural ability to heal itself.
I am also trained as a yoga and meditation instructor, which allows me to provide guidance with mindfulness, breathing, and grounding techniques as needed or desired.
My training as a divorce mediator gives me a greater understanding of the legal technicalities of the divorce process and can be helpful in setting realistic expectations and clarity around that aspect of your journey.
Perhaps You’re Considering Divorce Counseling But Still Have Some Concerns…
I feel like I’m weak or unstable for going to therapy for divorce.
Ending a marriage is hard, and you are not weak or unstable for wanting help; you are likely in pain and self-aware enough to know you can benefit from the help of a therapist. Getting help navigating a divorce is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of wisdom.
Others can handle their separation or divorce without counseling—why do I need help?
Everyone’s situation is different. Some people split on decent terms, while others experience a lot of anger, grief, and guilt. A lot of divorces are complicated by long-standing issues or circumstances, such as providing for a special-needs child or having to co-parent with a difficult ex.
Why is it taking me so long to move on after my divorce?
Divorce recovery is gradual. If you are taking the opportunity to truly work on yourself, heal properly, and create the life you want, it will take time. As a divorce counselor, I can help you accelerate that process of getting from where you are to where you want to be. It will still take time and work, but in the end, you will feel at peace, ready to fully live and love again.